Attracts wealth, beauty

Be beautiful! - Or maybe better not?

Beauty as a success factor

To be beautiful is something to strive for. Those who are beautiful get attention and are popular. Beautiful people seem to achieve everything we want. You are in the spotlight. They adorn advertising posters and magazine covers. Beautiful people beam at us as influencers on social media platforms. They walk the catwalks as supermodels and can be admired as actors on the screen. For many, being beautiful is synonymous with wealth, luxury, fame and recognition.

And even those who do not make it into the top tier of the super beautiful or perhaps do not have the ambitions to do so, find friends, attention and recognition more easily as a beautiful person. Beauty is so effective among people that we beautiful people easily fall for or even allow ourselves to be manipulated by them. Life is easier for those who are beautiful. Or not?

Mission: be beautiful

But not everyone or everyone is born flawlessly beautiful. In addition, the ideals of beauty - even if there may of course be some evolutionary biological constants - depend on the current social preferences. What is still considered beautiful today may not be so in a few years - and vice versa.

In order to enjoy the benefits of being beautiful or to stay in the face of changed ideals of beauty - or the effects of old age - many people spare neither expense nor effort:

You spend money on creams and make-up and invest a lot of time to make-up and style yourself in the morning or before an important event. You go to the hairdresser to have the trendy hairstyles done and to have your hair dyed in the current trend color. Men have recently been wearing artfully shaped beards. Some spend time in the tanning salon to stay tanned all year round.

Since beauty naturally also includes a beautiful, slim and well-built figure, many people sweat for hours on dumbbells and equipment in the gym. Many run long distances several times a week to stay or get lean and fit. Quite a few people are trying new diets all the time.

Anyone who is dissatisfied with their natural appearance and cannot conceal this with make-up, exercise, diet and clothing also has the option of having plastic surgery to help.

It is not for nothing that the vernacular says: "Whoever wants to be beautiful has to suffer."

Caution: side effects!

What side effects should beauty have for beautiful people themselves? The beauty of a person causes problems at best for people around them who become jealous and jealous or fall for the beautiful person, right?

Pray for beauty? - Better not! (Juvenal, Satires 10, 289–345)

The Roman satirist Juvenal warns against praying for beauty. The starting point of his discussion of the dangers that beauty can bring to a person is the request of a mother to Venus, the goddess of love, that her sons and daughters may be beautiful (Iuv. 10, 289-291).

But the fulfillment of such a wish would make the parents unhappy, since beauty and chastity seldom coexisted in harmony (Iuv. 10, 295-298). Juvenal discusses the following dangers for the beautiful child using the example of the sons, which can, however, easily be transferred to the daughters:

  • Despite an impeccable upbringing and the best character traits, a beautiful person could become an object of desire for seducers due to his beauty (Iuv. 10, 298–309).
  • Those who are beautiful run the risk of becoming adulterers because people in relationships are also strongly drawn to them (Iuv. 10, 310-318).
  • The beautiful person could enjoy being paid for the devotion to others, and thereby also become greedy (Iuv. 10, 319–323).
  • If the beautiful person tries to remain chaste, he may even incur the wrath of the spurned (Iuv. 10, 324-345).

In short: In Juvenal's view, beauty endangers a person's character, security and peace of mind. Therefore one should not strive for it.

Is it all just exaggeration and scare tactics?

One might argue that Juvenal's warning was satirical and had nothing to do with real life. It could also be argued that the dangers discussed by Juvenal relate to the world in imperial Rome on 1./2. Century AD relate and are therefore probably not transferable to our time.

But, is this really the truth? Can we make it that easy for ourselves?

Modern dangers

What are the dangers for beautiful women and men today?

Those who are beautiful are easily reduced to their looks and underestimated in other areas.

Beautiful people are in demand as lovers, friends, relationships. You like to surround yourself with them. But can these people be sure that as a person, as a person, they are popular and respected because of their character? That other people don't just adorn themselves with them and want something of their shine?

Worse still, you can easily become the object of desire and thus end up in danger of falling victim to stalkers. The rose in Goethe's poem from Heidenröslein In any case, her beauty was undoing.

Or something more harmless: you become the object of rivalry between admirers.

Openly or subliminally, they become the target of the envy of the less beautiful. If a mishap happens to the beautiful people who are so popular, it is all the better to pounce on them. Then you reap malice and ridicule so that the envious and mockers feel better themselves. However, this is not necessarily a unique selling point for beauty. Success, fame, and power also attract envy.

It is indeed seductive to use the power and effect of one's own beauty on others to fulfill one's own desires and assert one's own interests. Be it that you subtly manipulate other people, be it that you capitalize on your beauty more or less openly: as a model, influencer, actor, lover or prostitute.

Or less “disreputable”: You enjoy your effect on others, come to every club, are invited to all parties. Is invited for a drink by others. In short: beauty gives you advantages that others don't. Has it easier than others. Have to make less effort. Is there a crisis in your relationship? Why work on it when you know that the admirers will be queuing up or at least you can be sure to find someone again quickly?

So beauty is actually not completely without side effects.

So it's better not to be beautiful, or what?

I hope that these considerations have not frightened you off. Beauty is neither bad nor reprehensible. But on the contrary! Beauty brings joy to us humans. We rightly enjoy the sight of beauty in our lives, regardless of whether it is the beauty of nature, architecture, music or art - or whether it is the beauty of the people around us.

But you have to be aware of the effect of beauty. We need to be aware of how the beauty of others affects us. But we also need to be aware of how our own beauty affects the people around us.

If you know about your beauty and how it affects others, you should treat it responsibly. You should ask yourself from time to time whether what you achieve and effect in others is really thanks to your character, skills, and performance. Perhaps you address this by addressing it openly?

Do you want to use your effect consciously? Think about whether the goals for which you are working are appropriate and morally acceptable. Do you need to achieve your goals through targeted use of your beauty, or could you do it another way?

For a relaxed approach to beauty

As long as we don't fall into the beauty craze and subordinate everything to the optimization of our appearance, the pursuit of beauty is perfectly fine.

It is perfectly acceptable to show your beauty and enjoy the attention for it. However, you should not depend on the attention and appreciation for your beauty. And you should definitely not use your beauty to manipulate other people.

Of course, capitalizing on its beauty is also legitimate if there is a market for it. What would a film be without beautiful actors, an advertisement or fashion show without beautiful models?

With this in mind: Enjoy the beauty in and around you - consciously and responsibly!

Questions and suggestions:

  • What does "beautiful" mean to you?
    • The next time you find someone “beautiful”, try to become aware of which attributes exactly make up this beauty.
    • Exchange ideas with friends and acquaintances about what makes a beautiful woman or a beautiful man from your point of view.
  • How do you react to beautiful people?
    • Just make yourself aware Why you how respond to a beautiful person.
  • Do you think you are beautiful? How do you affect others?
    • Take a targeted look at how you affect other people.
    • Ask your friends or partner what they think is “beautiful” about you.
    • If you go out specifically without make-up and extensive styling, do not emphasize your beauty. Does the behavior of those around you change towards you?
  • Have you ever had advantages over other people or "competitors" because of your appearance?
  • Are you making targeted use of the effects of your beauty?
    • How do you feel about it?